Redeeming Ourselves From the Chains of Time

We all have very little time.

Yesterday we were in school, today we are working, earning money, having and maintaining a family. Tomorrow we will be old, we will retire from work and one day – die. We definitely have very little time. If you look back it will be as if it was only yesterday that we were in school. The time fled like frightened birds.

The question is why time is so short? What makes time short? Why do we have so little time? Why do we always say to others that we have little time and we have to hurry up?  You must have noticed, we are always in a hurry. When we are walking, eating, driving, working, we are always in a hurry.

We have 70-80 years of life and we have a million goals, millions of things to achieve, all small and big in these 70-80 years of life. So the time required for each goal is hardly anything. And our goals increase everyday. If you divide the time of 70-80 years of life with the number of goals that we have we have an average time to achieve every goal – less than a minute and we invariably have to hurry, whether we achieve the goals or not. In the pursuit of our millions of goals we go mad. The goals are big, each and every goal is very bid indeed. They are gigantic. To achieve them takes time, definitely not less than a minute. So, this makes time so short. This makes us run around like fanatics. We do not have time to breath, to relax and have fun. It is most of the time a do or die situation.

Time comes into the picture because there is a limit – the fact that we will die one day, which is not very far puts a limit and brings time into the picture. For us everything has to be done in time, otherwise we will miss it, we will be late and death is approaching. So we run, we fight, we kill, only to achieve our goals.

This is not only with you, it is with all the people in the planet. Starting from the beggar in the street to the highest of emperors – everybody is running after their goals. The goals may differ in magnitude – but the struggle to achieve them is same, humans have limitations and the struggle and the strive to achieve is the same for all human beings. Humans cannot be strained beyond a certain limit. Even while striving, the maximum effort that we can put is the same for all, the maximum human effort is the same for all, the goal may be different – different in magnitude, different in what we want to achieve. But the strain we go through is same for all. And all of us have a time limit. The same limit. Death limits us. One day we all will die. This makes us all same, whether we are an emperor, or whether we are a beggar in the street, we are same.

The question is whether these goals are utmost necessary? Will we not live without these goals? What will happen to us if we do not have or run after goals? From where do these goals arise? Why do we chase our goals like mad people and would go any extent to achieve them? What will happen when we achieve these goals?

Let us see from where these goals come and are they utterly necessary:

You must understand that we are internally strained and there is a lump of energy inside us – we were born with it and this energy needs to be released; this is our objective.  We know that a baby cries the moment he or she is born – this proves the fact that we were born with some uneasiness. From where this uneasiness has come. A new born baby need not be strained at all – mentally or physically. But the baby cries the moment he or she is born. There must be some uneasiness. We have been taught not to cry, we have been taught that only cowards cry so now we have stopped crying, but no one has taught this new born baby not to cry but still the baby cries.Crying is the only way to express this uneasiness for the baby. This itself proves that there was previous birth. It proves that the baby carried this uneasiness or excess energy from its previous life. This proves that there was life before birth and there will be life after death. The uneasiness that is there will be carried to your next life, if not mitigated in this life.

Our objective is to bring this stress or energy we were born with to a null. But we don’t know how to, so we blame the external conditions for this state of us. Since we are strained inside, we have an uneasiness inside and this uneasiness we call unhappiness. And because of this uneasiness we are constantly looking for happiness – all around we are looking for happiness. If we were not unhappy, why would we look for happiness, it is very simple. Whoever we see happy, we tend to follow them. We see a rich man, we see a apparently happy couple, we see someone driving a good car, we see someone doing good business, we ASSUME that they are happy and we make what they have today into our goal tomorrow ASSUMING THAT WE WILL BE HAPPY WHEN WE HAVE WHAT THEY HAVE TODAY. We are so much into our search for happiness that we fail to see that they are also strained inside and no matter what they have today will not make them stop.They were also born with the same unhappiness. This is how we decide our goals. Our search for happiness, because we are strained inside, leads us to look for happiness outside and imitate what we see, hoping that we will be happy tomorrow, if we follow others. Our goal is nothing but imitation of others. We are so ignorant that we do not know that they are also under the same strain inside, they are not free either and are looking for happiness around.

You must have seen that we are making or chasing goals at all points of our lives .This is because we are not happy with with what we are doing or having now. There is still to achieve because we are not yet satisfied. But the truth is that we will not be satisfied unless the uneasiness is completely done away with. If we look back, it is not that we have not achieved anything – we have – but are not satisfied yet. We have till date achieved a lot, but it is not enough. We want to have more. We are not satisfied, there is an uneasiness always present within always and all the time. If the uneasiness would not have been there, we would not have had goals at all. Then we would not have been looking for happiness. But it is not the case. No matter how much we achieve, there is need for more. We just do not want to stop, ever. These goals are our driving force. This uneasiness inside makes the world around. Without these, what would we do. But it is also a fact that no matter how much we achieve, there is need for even more. After achieving one goal, the uneasiness goes for some time, but soon the uneasiness comes again and again we start running. And at the same time, time is running out. This strains us more. Very little time and so much to achieve.

Lets say, suddenly you have achieved all your goals that you have had till date – what after that? Will we stop or we will again start running? Will ever a day come when we will have nothing to achieve?

It is a fact that we will die one day, but what is there for the rush? Why are we rushing, fighting and straining ourselves so much? What will happen if we know that we will die tomorrow? Where will the goals be at that time? We will invariable give them up? It would be foolishness to try and achieve those goals in a day’s time and at the same time impossible. One day before our death, we will still remain who we are. The rush and the fight will be foolishness.

We assume that we will live till 70 or 80, but it is just and assumption. The 70-80 years of life is an assumption based on observation, and this gives us some time to pursue our goals and make all achievements. But death can come anytime.

So all our goals are based on assumption that we still have time to be happy – but very little time. We may die the next moment. Since our goals are based on assumption, the time we would take to achieve the goal is also assumption – But the question is still not answered.The question is why a goal at all? – whether we have time or no time at all – why is there a question of a goal?

This, like I said before, is because we are uneasy inside and in the process to do away with the uneasiness, we create goals by looking at others, which creates further uneasiness. We are constantly falling into a trap.

When things go wrong in our lives, we are sad not because of the event, we are tense because we don’t know when will it get over and we will be back to normal again. The question is again of time. We are tensed because we are running out of time. For us normal means chasing goals and aiming a good life. For us even normal is also not without time. Time is always a factor.

To have goals we need time – because whenever we have a goal, we will have to achieve them and will consume time. So Time is required for goals.

We will not have goals under two conditions 1) If we have infinite time 2) If we have no time at all.

If we have infinite time, even if we have goals, we will not hurry – we would stop. Everything would stop. All the hurry and running in our lives will immediately stop. We have experienced that whenever a deadline is postponed, we immediately relax. We slow down. We then do whatever we want to do, we play around, watch a movie, go for a holiday – If the deadline is extended till infinity – you would stop working because the goal will no longer exist. The presence of limited time brings the goal into the picture.

So infinite time gives to complete FREEDOM. Time makes you a prisoner. So, if the time we have is increased till infinity – we would completely relax and would be completely free. Or if we make ourselves completely free – it would mean we have infinite time – we would become deathless.

If we have no time at all – then there would be no goal – even if there is goal, there is not time to achieve it – so having a goal becomes meaningless.
If you live in this moment, you have infinite time and if we have infinite time – we come back to this moment, we start living in this moment. Actually, both having no time at all, and having infinite time are one and the same, because in both cases, a goal or a target to achieve is meaningless.The way to infinite time is having no goal at all.

Only a BUDDHA lives in infinite time or no time at all. Both these situations are same. A Buddha is immortal.

We mortals live in between. We live in time. Neither do we live in this moment nor in infinite time. This makes us mortals. Living in time brings us immense misery.

I agree that we will live for 80 years. But what is the need of having a goal? All our goals are for happiness. We think that if we achieve our goals, we will be happy, but we have witnessed that we are never contented – there is always an uneasiness inside. One goal after the other, this and that, this place or that, but we are never contented. We always feel that we need more time but there is always lack of time. We need to be free to do what we want. What is the need to do what we like? We think that doing what we like to do, will make us happy. But this never happens, there is no end to it.
The question always is to be happy – but unfortunately whatever we do, wherever we go, we are never happy – we are continuously, without fail, night and day, in pursuit of happiness – why this pursuit does not end? We are constantly in pursuit of happiness because we are continuously unhappiness inside. This is because of the constant uneasiness inside. And we were born with this uneasiness. This has to be understood.

We see that all of us are pursuing happiness. There is a great need for all of us to be happy.

Happiness is the goal of us mortals because we have little time. This little time leads us to setting goals and increase our internal strain that we were born with; and in that short time he or she has to be happy. The Day you stop pursuing happiness, you become immortal, because then you are not bound by time.

Actually the problem is not with the outside, the problem is the strain inside of all of us. The constant uneasiness is our problem. And we keep blaming the outside, whoever or whatever it may be, for our problems. We blame the outside because we do not know from where this uneasiness comes. We are ignorant. It has to come from somewhere. So we blame others for this uneasiness. The outside cannot solve our problems no matter what we do. No matter how much success we achieve or no matter how much we gain, this uneasiness is to remain unless it is understood and mitigated. This is independent of our achievements or failures in this world.

This is with all of us starting from the greatest of Kings to the beggar on the street. The need to be happy all the time, no matter how much we achieve success the strain and uneasiness remains and we never stop our pursuit for happiness no matter how much success we achieve – suggests that there is tension or uneasiness constantly present inside us and this tension we have inside has nothing to do with the success or failure we come across in our lives.

This tension or uneasiness has nothing to do with success or failure in the material world. This has nothing to do with what work we do – it does not matter what we achieve or not achieve, it is not dependent on whether we aim big or we aim small. This strain will go away when we go beyond the chains of time. when we become infinity, the day we realize that we have no death. This will go the day we become a BUDDHA.

This is nothing personal with the uneasiness inside – you were born with it. Every baby is born with it. Otherwise you would not have cried the moment you were born. And the mother and the father of the child starts covering the uneasiness to stop the child cry. They give the baby every comfort, every toy as per their capacity to stop the baby cry – they cannot help it because they are connected with the baby with so much love. The child grows up and becomes a man, then he starts covering his own uneasiness with things – sometimes he wants money, sometimes a car and sometimes a girlfriend or boyfriend.

This uneasiness is the driving force – due to this uneasiness we work to cover up our inner turmoil – we work to keep ourselves engaged all day, we work to earn money so that we can give ourselves the toys we love and cover up the uneasiness.But the uneasiness does not go. We keep buying toys for ourselves but the uneasiness or energy does not get mitigated.
We mistakenly think that this uneasiness will go if achieve success in the material world. We think that when we achieve this or that, this uneasiness will go, but the happiness that will come with the this success will be just a very small cover for the ever existing uneasiness inside. THIS UNEASINESS IS INDEPENDENT OF THE SUCCESS OR FAILURE IN THIS MATERIAL WORLD. But we add fuel to this uneasiness. We strain ourselves. We are strained already, but we,instead of relieving ourselves, strain ourselves more and more.

We fall in a trap. We know that our time is limited. It is true as long as we not realize that we are timeless. The strain that we carry with ourselves from our birth till date is there and we add further strain to it. Since there is a strain, we are always uneasy inside and in order to do away with this strain. We do not understand that the strain is not ours, it is carried from our previous birth and with this strain we are always sad, depressed and uneasy. In order to mitigate this uneasiness, we create goals and think that we would be happy when we achieve our goals. And our goals have to be time bound, because we have little time.This strains us even more and adds to the strain. When we fail to achieve our goals, we add to the strain further because we have lost precious time. The point is not about failing to achieving the goal, the strain is about loosing time and having lesser and lesser time. Our all fears are about loosing time, that is why we do not try anything that is time consuming – because we fear that all the time will be gone and there will be no time to be happy. And whenever we try we put a time limit – it has to be because we mortals are not infinite yet. If we would have had infinite time, the failure would not have made any difference to us. This loosing of time leaves us with more strain because everyday, as time passes, we are left with lesser and lesser time and more and more strain. strain because the goals and the achievements remain the same only time decreases. The number of goals and targets always increase in number and the time decreases leading to more strain.

So the existing strain that we have been carrying from our previous birth, makes us set more goals towards happiness and this leads to further strain. So our goals add fuel to fire.

We have to understand that we have not yet realized our ultimate potential – that is to be a BUDDHA. This will happen the day we have completely done away with the strain inside that we are carrying. Though we have the potential to be a Buddha. Every human being has this potential in him or her. On that day, the strain that we have been carrying for centuries will be completely done away with, and simultaneously all goals will be done away with. We would become timeless and deathless. We would become a Buddha. But this has to happen in its own accord. Whenever the time comes it will happen, but we have to prepare the ground for it to happen. It will happen when the ground is ready. But we misunderstand and think that to mitigate this ever existing stress inside, we need to be happy and set goals for ourselves. We set more and more goals and strain ourselves further with decreasing time.

What we need to do:

1. Stop Pursuing Happiness – Pursue something tough, something you have never done before – something out of the world – Delete the word happiness from your dictionary – Because happiness is not your goal – Understand your goal.

2. Understand that our ultimate goal is to do away with this ever existing internal stress completely and be a Buddha, this is our ultimate goal, no matter how many goals we have on the way.

3. Understand that we are still not a Buddha,still not timeless and infinite but at the same time we have the potential to be a Buddha. Every human being has.

4. We are still mortals, we have to live in this world with others. So instead of having millions of goals and trying to mitigate the stress by having more and more goals, have ONLY ONE goal in this life. And slowly do away with all other goals. Whatever ONE goal you have, make it timeless by keeping the deadline at INFINITY. Lesser the goals, more the time. Remember that the day we have no goal, we become immortals. We become free. The Goal is in INFINITY because, to completely rule out the possibility of being happy after achievement of the goal. And we have one goal, so no question of any happiness.

5. We have to be brave, because in the process towards to out goal placed at infinity, lot of people will come an go, lot of connections will break, there will be a lot of pain and misery, but you should not get distracted. This will lead to non-attachment (This is the message of the Bhagwad Gita).

6. Always remember that whatever stress is there in the form of emotions, we have inside, has nothing to do with what happens outside and whatever action we do, will not mitigate the stress. But we should not add more energy to it.

7. Understand that the all our problems are because of the stress inside, which we have been carrying from our previous birth – not to involve the external situation for our emotions.

8. Be impersonal to the stress in the form of emotions that we have inside.

This way we prepare the ground. And then one day when the time is perfect, the stress and uneasiness inside will completely vanish leaving you TIMELESS and INFINITE. You will be a BUDDHA.

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The Will and its Infinite Potential

There are time when we have to wake up at 4 o clock in a cold winter morning to catch a flight or a train. The moment the alarm rings,  we wake up. We feel like sleeping a little more, we do not feel like getting up at all. Who will wake up at 4 o clock in a cold winter morning, get ready, and go to catch a flight? This is the first thought we have the moment we get up. But we do get up, get ready, travel to the airport and catch the flight. What makes us do this in such a situation? It is the WILL. The mind says that we must not go, but the “will” takes us through. The will is responsible for action.
Sometimes in life, we have to face worst situations, we have faced and we have survived. What takes us through? The WILL.
We wake up everyday in the morning and go to work, we take care of our family, we talk to friends, we party – we do a lot of things – so much of doing is possible because of the presence of the WILL. The will becomes prominent when the situation around worsens as per the mind. The mind trembles, fears, but the will does not – all actions that we do everyday are because of the WILL. The will makes us act, or otherwise, we will remain confined to our minds. You have to understand that the will is not the mind. It is something different. If the will was the mind, then we would have all our lives done nothing.
The will comes into the picture when there is an obstacle in the path. We act because there are obstacles. Without the obstacle, there is no WILL and there is NO action. Smaller the obstacle, smaller the will. The will and the obstacle are directly proportional.
The WILL is neither the mind, nor the brain, then from where does the will come? It is the infinite, that is present within ourselves that gets converted into WILL. It is existence, it is the supreme intelligence that gets converted into the will – since humans are capable to converting this supreme intelligence, the intelligence of the universe into WILL, humans are infinite – we can go any extent – we can reach the stars – but we are restricted and confined by our small minds – this is our problem – because of our minds we remain restricted to small things – we do not dare to dream big.
The will comes into the picture whenever there is an obstruction – WILL makes you act – WILL is required for action – WILL comes into the picture whenever you need to stand straight in spite of severe conditions around you – There is thought and there is action – the thoughts are from the mind; both positive and negative thoughts – but the WILL makes you act on the thoughts – The WILL gives power to the thoughts –
If you dream big  – the obstacles will be more and greater will be the WILL – No matter how much you make the will stronger, the will can grow more in strength – it is in one word INFINITE – So human beings are also infinite. But we have not realized our true potential.
So to realize our true potential we must have goals which are very high – and we must with all our will take the challenge to realize  our goal – The Goal should be so high that it Brings out our true potential. To realize our true potential is to make our will so strong that it becomes equivalent to GOD – and then you are liberated.
If your mind is full of good thoughts, then the power of the WILL will translate these thoughts into action – Our goal should be action   at the highest level – because if we act at the highest level – we will require a WILL that is at the highest level and it will then lead us to LIBERATION.
Two things are required:
1) GOOD THOUGHTS
2) GIGANTIC WILL
We must work in a way so as to make our WILL so strong that one day we are liberated – LIBERATION SHOULD BE OUR GOAL –

Greater the WILL – Greater the Freedom

Please Refer my post “Take Life as an Experiment”
If we know that we are free, then why are we not free, why are we scared, why are we miserable? If all actions are experiments then why are we not experimenting with something out of the world and living a miserable life today?
Why are we not aiming to reach the starts?

Why are we living a low life today?
What has happened to our utter freedom?
If the results are not in our control or if the results do not exist at all, then we should be free, there should be no misery at all,but why then we are so full of misery?
Where is our freedom to be free, though theoretically we should be utterly free?
The absence of results and presence of only action should give us the freedom to reach for the starts, it gives us freedom to be anything we want, but where is our utter freedom?
Why are we not free today to do anything we want?
Why are we not full of bliss and glory?
Why do we choose to be a beggar and not a millionaire?
Why cant we dream big and change our thoughts and dreams into reality?
Why can we not be the best in the world in any thing we do?
Why do not we aim to be be the best of the best?
As I told you, all actions are experiments, why do not we experiment with something worthwhile?
What has happened to us? Theoretically we are free – we are supposed to be free – but why are we not? This is the question. If it is theoretically possible, then practically it must be possible.So what stops it?

This is because we are only confined to our small minds. We make others goals as our goals. Our goals are limited to the goals of others. We cant think beyond. Our mind is very small and this world or rather this universe if open – infinite and unending. This is because we are result oriented and our results are what others are doing today. This is because we fear failure, which may happen tomorrow and fail to understand that tomorrow does not exist. The presence to tomorrow gives rise to the mind or the mind gives rise to results and tomorrow. This is because we make someone else’s goal into our tomorrow. This is because our mind tells us that we are small and cannot be big.We dream big, but we stop thinking that we will not be able to. This is because we think that we are helpless. This is because we think we can never be the best of the best.
Summarily – we are stopped by our mind – this mind is the barrier. We stop because we think we will not be able to move forward – WE STOP BECAUSE WE THINK THAT WE WILL STOP.
What can lead us through – IT IS THE “WILL”. One has to understand that the will is not the mind – the mind thinks, but the will makes us act – the mind gives the idea – and it is because of the will that we realize the Idea.
The mind gives you the dream, it gives you desires and at the same time it stops you from realizing them. It is through shear will power that one can overcome anything in this universe.
One has to understand that the will and the mind are opposites – the mind stops and the will overcomes, the will takes us through – greater the barrier (mind) – stronger the will – the will is divine- it is the divine that gets converted into will and it can grow to that extent that it can make you completely free – the will can make you infinite.

Why We Hate? – The Exercise

This is a continuation of my post – “Why we hate?”. As I have always said, in order to like or love, you have to first eliminate hate. You cannot forcibly eliminate hate or forcibly love. Love is always there, but it is clouded by hate. You have to remove hate by understanding. Once hate has been removed by understanding, love will automatically happen. So our effort should not be to love, but to remove hate.

I have written about an exercise in my post – “why we hate?”. I am doing the exercise myself, to make you understand clearly what I meant in my previous post.

I have made three columns – The first column contains all the “I”s. It contains what makes us who we are, in the second column I have written the person or the situation that make us who we are and in the third column I have written when we start hating the person responsible for making who we are.

What makes you “YOU” Person/Things concerned that makes You “YOU” When we think that we are in trouble and hate the person concerned
I am a good person Society The society has given you a label of a good person. If one or more person in the society calls you bad or not so good, you start hating that person and love those who call us good
I am 30 years old Society Any one who calls you older or younger that what you are, you start hating that person
I am a son/Daughter Father/Mother If by any change, my parents disown me, we become depressed
I am a father/Mother Son/Daughter When your son or daughter leaves you, you become sad
I am a husband/wife Husband/wife When we go through a divorce, we suffer and ultimately start hating the spouse of causing you so much trouble
I have a good looking husband/wife Society Someone says your spouse in ugly, you hate that person
I am good looking Society Someone calls you ugly – you hate that person
I have a healthy body Myself/society Someone comments that you are looking sick and down, you hate that person
I am a friend My Friends when your friends leaves you (goes to another city) or when he is no longer a friend, when he no longer listens to you, hatred slowly develops
I am an Employee in a Reputed Company Company when the company asks you to leave, you hate it.
I am the owner of a car My Car When you car is no longer your car or is stolen or has been damaged or has broken down, you are sad and eventually think about selling your car – you start hating your car or the person who lead to that situation
I am the owner of a house My House When you have to sell your house for some reason or the other you feel sad
I have money in my account The money when you loose money, you are worried and sad
I am famous in my fiend circle My Friend circle when you lose importance in your friend circle, you are sad
I am educated My school/College when someone calls you that you are behaving like an uneducated person, you hate that person
I am a student My school/College When, due to some reason or the other, you are asked to leave you school, you hate you school or college
I am a teacher My students When one or more students leave you, you are sad
I am someone’s adviser The person(s) I advise When the person who seeks advise from you no longer does so, you are initially sad, and then start to hate that person
My Goals Person/Things concerned that will make us achieve our goals. When we think that we are in trouble and start hating the other
I want to be rich Money (Through work or Business) When you lose you job or your business suffers or when you lose money you are sad and hate the person who is responsible for this loss
I want a promotion My Manager You hate you manager for promoting some other employee instead of you
I want to start a business Money, Idea, Co-founders, Customers Someone does not invest in your company, someone disagrees to lend you money, your team disintegrates and all of then join another person, or you business has started and then somehow your products don’t see, your prospective customers do not buy you product – you start hating the person responsible for not allowing you to start a business
I want to be famous & renowned Society The society does not consider you famous. You hate to live in the same society and change your city or may be country (some people do change countries)
I want to be a writer My Idea, Publisher, Readers You do not have a proper Idea – you hate yourself, you find someone already has the same idea and has already published – you hate yourself, your publisher does not agree to publish your book -you hate the publisher, the readers do not consider you a good writer – you start cursing all of them you has disagreed
I want a bigger car Money Somehow you are not able to have that money required to buy your favorite car – you hate the person or the situation responsible
I want a bigger house Money Somehow you are not able to have that money required to buy your favorite car – you hate the person or the situation responsible
I want another kid spouse Your wife does not agree for another baby, you hate you wife and may be you will think about divorce
I want to look good Society Someone says that you cannot be that good looking – you hate all the people who have said that you cannot be that beautiful
I want a good looking spouse Spouse You will not marry till the time you find the person of your choice – any by any chance if he or she is not upto the mark, you will hate her
I want a rich spouse Spouse Your spouse was rich when you married, but due to some reason or the other, he has lost all the money – you hate him or her an eventually think about divorce
Since I am good, I want all my colleagues to like me Colleagues You will hate the colleague who says that you are not good
I want the whole world to love me, whoever I meet the whole world This is not possible – you will hate the whole world and eventually hate yourself for not being that good so that everyone loves you
I want a peaceful life situations around Life keeps changing all the time – in case there is a crisis – you will hate yourself and you will be suicidal
Every 3 months I want a vacation Money, Time, Manager There are possibilities that you may not have money, your manager did not approve you leave application, may be your have other more important work and you had to skip your vacation – you will start hating every person or situation that did not allow you to have the vacation
I want to tour the world Money There are possibilities that you may not have money, your manager did not approve you leave application, may be your have other more important work and you had to skip your vacation – you will start hating every person or situation that did not allow you to have the vacation

The whole of the first column is imaginary and it is called your ego. These are all desires and they help you to be who you are. Otherwise who will you be? But all these things are cause of your trouble. Whole life, in order to realize these identities, we chase one thing or the other. If these are imaginary, than what is real? The place where you are reading this post is real. This moment – here and now is real. Everything else is just a dream. You you watch yourself – your actions and your thoughts very carefully, you will see that every single word uttered or every effort made is towards realizing the “I”s in the first column.

We hate when someone does not help us realize our first column. All our hatred arises from our desire to keep the “I”s alive. Anyone against this first column of ours, he is our greatest enemy.

The moment you know these identities of yours, these “I”s, you will know why you hate. The moment hate comes, if you are aware, you will be relate between your hate and your imaginary Identity, your “I”.

We search for peace of mind. We search for happiness. But how can we be happy and satisfied when we have much to do. Each “I” interferes with the other. And after all, trying to have peace of mind is also an attempt to realize one of the “I”s.

For someone like Gautama, the Buddha, the first column is Blank. This leads to the peak of “peace of mind” that a human being can attain. It leads to enlightenment. It does not happen by making – “peace of mind” a goal, else it would be one of the contents of your first column, but by doing away with the goal.

Having “peace of mind” as a goal is an interesting topic for discussion. We will discuss about it in another post.

We cannot do away with the first column, it does not happen so drastically But if we, GIVE A PAUSE, between our actions, if we watch ourselves, if we develop awareness, we will have a choice. You will know the driving driving force behind every action of yours. The driving force has enormous momentum, the moment you pause, the momentum is lost and you can then change you action from what your mind is saying and what is requirement of the moment.  Then these “I”s do exist for sometime, but they do not have any power on you . Yo being to change.

Two Reasons why People Hate me

I have understood, after a really long time why people hate me. Since childhood, I have had very little friends, though I have not been a kind of an introvert. I wanted to mingle with people, go out with them, but I  was not able to, since others did not like me much. When in college, It was a fact that I never had a best friend. The guy who I thought was my best friend, was someone else’s best friend and I was last in the list. While at work, people tired to avoid me. I was depressed all my life, until this day, when I realized the truth. 

There are two reasons (basically one) but I have made it two for better understanding. 

1. I open myself up very quickly

The nature of the human mind is to seek. It needs to know everything. Because the minds thinks that not knowing might bring danger. The mind keeps thinking, what kind of danger it might bring. So the mind needs to know. Whenever anything comes in its hands, it dissects it, operates on it, goes to the microscopic and submicroscopic level and tried to find our everything.

 

You must have noticed, that two people, not known to each other, when travelling together in a train or a bus, always tend to talk. The exchange names and ask each other what he or she does. It is the mind, who needs to know, because it is scared that God knows what might come up. Even if they do not talk, they keep talking within themselves about the person. The keep guessing, looking at the person’s behavior and belonging’s who might it be? And the inner chatter and guessing continues till the time they are sitting next to each other. 

And when it knows, when it has nothing to find, it throws it away. It becomes useless. The attraction was only due to the lack of knowledge about that particular person or thing. All pursuits are only to know. And because of an inherent fear. Fear makes us seek and there is no end to it. This fear never ends. If there is no fear, there will be no seeking. The fear is usually deep inside us and we generally do not know about it.  

The fear is the cause of all pursuits, whether it is an object, money or people. When the knowledge is  apparently complete, the fear is gone and the seeking is over. This is the nature of human beings.

In my case I open myself up very quickly. In the first meeting with someone, they know everything about me. They know everything, like, what I do, whether I am married or single, where I work, what are my interests, what I read, what are my hobbies and everything. I become an open book.  I don’t know why but I tell them  everything. I tend to. They come to know that I am harmless. I am peaceful. They come to know that in no way I can be of any danger to him or her. Rather the also come to know, what they can get from me. Whatever they need they take and throw me away. 

The reason is when I open myself up, their mind stops seeking. They do no longer chase me or want me. They know everything about me. Now, they do no longer want me. When I go to them, I feel ignored because I am of no use to them, and neither I pose any danger, neither I am mysterious. 

I am ignored. I feel it is my fault because I revel everything in the first few meetings itself. 

2. I reveal my own fears, problems and tensions  

We have to understand that we are all humans. We have the same fears, same tensions and same problems. Because the origin of fear is the same for all of us. We will talk about the origin of fears in another post. 

The fears are there, there are somewhere deep inside you mind. They pop out from time to time and cause you enormous tension. You hide it immediately with some cover. But the fear never goes. It remains and keeps bothering you from time to time. 

We are always in the look out for a cover. We want to hide it under a blanket.

 As I have told that all our seeking is for knowledge, we see whether the other will be of any use to us or is completely useless. The seeking is only to know whether the other will be of any use to us. What can be a possible use of another person? It may seem many things, but the most basic thing is whether the other person will be able to cover my fears. The fears are dangerous. If they pop out and possess us, it may cause enormous trouble. So we constantly look out for people who will be able to cover up my fears. 

We never talk about our fears. We suppress our fears because we have been taught to suppress our fears since the time we were children and we have been suppressing our fears since that time. We want them to be hidden and want to carry them to our grave.  

Everyone has fears. If anyone comes and tells me that he does not have fear, I would not believe. It has to be someone like the Buddha to say so. All others, I mean those who are not enlightened, have fears and we are continuously protecting ourselves. We are always trying to make our fears hide under the blanket. All seeking, all questions and all arguments (internal and external) are to protect ourselves.

When I reveal my fears, when I reveal my tensions, anxieties to others. I immediately become useless for them. They are looking for someone, who will be able to save them for their own fears, which they have been hiding. They are looking for someone fearless, which is very very difficult to find in this planet. They thought, when they met me, that may be I ll be able to save them, but I come out to be someone who is himself afraid like them.

I become a mirror and reflect their real faces, which they hate to see. They want to hide under a mask of bravery, but internally they have only fears, which makes them seek all life and they die one day with the fears. They fail to understand that I am also a human and not enlightened like a Buddha.  I have the same fears that they have. We all have same fears, because we all have the same egos, we have the same identities, which we keep protecting. 

The only difference is – I reveal and they don’t. By revealing I become a weak guy and others by hiding, become strong and brave. According to me, being brave is just a false show. It is not true. It is suggestive of another fear. Whatever we do, whether we hide or reveal, the fear is there and will be there if not completely uprooted from our being. Simply hiding our fears will not make us brave.

When I reveal my fears, I act as a mirror. I remind them of their fears because the fears I have are the same as theirs. When I talk about my fears, they see themselves in me. They see themselves as a scared person. But I cannot help. I cannot pretend. I have to reveal whatever is going on inside. I do not know whether it is my weakness or bravery.

They throw me out. 

 

Ego and the Advertising Industry

Ego and the Advertising Industry:
 
This is very important, from the point of view of generating a need for a particular product. Besides our basic needs, all other needs are work of the ego. Before you go ahead with this post, I would like you to please go through the post – “Ego – The Greatest Obstacle to Creativity and Innovation”.

Our Egos are making the whole Advertising Industry run. They bombard your mind with information about some beautiful product again and again leading to the formation of another self. 

You have seen advertisements are repeated many times. This is just to make the imagination from vague to concrete and help you to develop another small identity among many other identities of yours. 

They are repeated to make the identity stronger by making your imagination stronger about the product.

Once you develop an Identity, there is again a clash between your so developed  identity and  reality and you start getting uneasy because you do not own the product. 

When you see reality you are sad that you do not own the product, because simultaneously you imagine yourself owning the product. 

This makes you split. No one can remain at ease being split. This becomes a cause for massive trouble. Most of the time you end up buying the product or shift your focus to make another imaginary identity become real, just for the sake of avoiding it. But the identity once formed, does not die. One day you will surely end up buying the product. 

If you buy it, the product ends up making you feel good by making your imaginary identity become real, and putting and end to your uneasiness. 

The company ends up selling a product.