From Bondage to Freedom

The moment you make a decision you are drifting; you are changing track. The decisions that you make depends on the options that you have. The options are in your mind in the form of thoughts. You pick up a thought and act or not act on it. The thoughts that you have today depends on your birth and your birth in not in your control. You cannot choose your parents or the family or the environment in which you will be born. This is decided by existence or God or Nature, whatever you may call it. Today If I am an engineer, the Idea of being an engineer must have come from my parents or from the education that was provided to me by my parents. The thought must have come to me from somewhere outside, which depends on the environment in which I was born and my birth was not decided by me. So whatever I do, it is the decision of creation or existence or God. So we see that we remain confined to our small world. This is the case with everyone of us. We are bound by our world in which we were born. And we keep circling within our small worlds. We are limited within our small worlds. Our actions are limited by our thoughts and our thoughts are limited by our births. We are constantly drifting, but drifting within our worlds. Whatever we do, we are confined to our world. In the modern times, our small world is the whole world because we all are connected. We know what someone else is doing, who may be half the world away. We can get ideas and thoughts from someone else who is half way around the world. Whatever we do, we are as if chained to our own worlds. This is the case with all the people in this world. Each one of us is acting according to the thoughts they have. All of us being born in the same connected planet have similar thoughts and we act according to our thoughts. Millions of people have similar thoughts and when so many people are acting on similar thoughts using their will power (only when your will is acted on a thought there is action), they are bound to clash with each other and there is bound to be conflict. There is bound to be suffering. Someone will win and someone will lose. No one can always win. There has to be loss and one cannot win all the time. This is the wheel of the world and it is dangerous. Because of this the world is made of opposites – Happiness and sorrow, of victory and defeat, of good and bad. This is why our lives are full of both. One cannot say that one will always be a winner and one will always be happy. This is the case with everyone. To an ordinary man, he is born into bondage. Being in bondage he suffers. He cannot get out of this bondage.

If you look closely, every day we make decisions are all decisions are for ourselves. We all want to earn money, we all want to have a good position in society, we want power, we want to be famous, we want to do great business, we want a better job, we want a good house, and we want a peaceful family, a good husband, a good wife, good children and a lot more. In every action of us there is an “I” or “ME” included. There cannot be action without this “I”. Everything that we do is for ourselves. The decisions we make every day is because of this “I”.  There are millions of people in the planet, working for their “I”. This “I” makes us act. This “I” makes us move forward in life. And all these “I”s are bound to clash with each other. There is suffering, there is conflict, and there is killing and violence. The world moves because of all the “I”s otherwise there would be no movement. The wheel of the world moves because all the “I”s and this wheel is dangerous. It creates enormous suffering for all the people.

There are two ways to freedom from this bondage.

  • One, if you decide NOT to drift at all. You decide not make a decision at all. You decide once and for all not to act on your thoughts, whatever your  thoughts may be, whatever may be the source of your thoughts, and you will  not act. You leave the world, and become a recluse. You do not care about this world – you do not care about your parents, wife, children or husband. You do not care about anything at all. You do not care about what will  happen to them if you leave them forever. You say “I don’t want anything” and leave. In this path, only the “I” remains and everything else is renounced. If you are the “I” and the world is “you” – the “You” or everything other than “I” vanishes, leaving only the pure “I”. If you see closely using your intellect, then you will know that the “I” exist because of the “You”. Without the “You” there is no “I”. So, when the “You”  is completely removed by slowly renouncing the “You”, when the “You” is no  more, the “I” also vanishes – leaving you enlightened – leaving you completely Free. You become a Buddha.
  • Two, if  you decide to drift as and when required as if the drift is being done by      Creation or existence. You will provide no resistance to drift. This is  just the opposite of the first method. You decide to be in this world, drift and change course. You care about everything, do everything; you use your will to act on your thoughts. But if you act on all your thoughts then there s bound to be conflict. There is bound to be suffering. What to do then? The problem is not because of your action, but on the results of the actions. The results cause suffering – the results make you win or lose, the results make your victorious or make you a failure. The results will make us drift in life. In this method, you have to leave the results in the hands of God. In this method, you will just drift and not bother about drifting.

If we are being driven by god, then all we have is free time. The journey is his responsibility, ours. We do not know where we will drift, where we will change course. He will drive us to our goals; we need not bother to reach. If you look back, we have been drifting along all our lives and the point where we are today is because of all the drifts that had taken place in the past. So, we have lots and lots of time. Time does not matter. One need not be in a hurry at all. Even if you are late, it does not matter. Even if you miss something it does not matter. For example, in a 10 hour journey, what do you do? You may read; you may listen to music; you may chat with other co passengers or with anyone travelling with you. You are free to do whatever you want. You may look out of the window and enjoy the scenery. You may go to sleep. Whatever you do, it is not going to affect the journey. Because whatever you do, you are journeying in the right direction. No time is going to be wasted.  You need not worry about what will happen if you do not do what you are doing during the journey. You may do something or not do something – it does not matter.

Similarly in life, whatever you do, no time is going to be wasted because you are driven by God. If you cry, you are not wasting time, if you read or if you celebrate and enjoy your journey, you are not wasting any time.

If the results are in his control, then we are free from the results, then the responsibility is on His shoulders or on existence. He will take you wherever He has to take you and He is will definitely take you.

If you are crying – you are passing time by crying

If you are angry – you are just passing time by being angry

If you are doing business – you are passing time by doing business

If you are driving – you are still passing time by driving

If you are working – you are still passing time by working

If you are sad – you are passing time by being sad

If you are depressed – you are passing time by being depressed

If you are celebrating and rejoicing – then you are passing time by celebrating

If you are serious about something or someone – you are just passing time by being serious

If you are fighting with someone – then you are passing time by fighting with that person

If you do not do anything – even then you are passing time by doing nothing

When you are passing time, you are just passing time, there is no responsibility on you – you can take work as a play, whatever you do – and when you are passing time, without any responsibility of results – you can celebrate.

All you do is just pass time – you have nothing else to do – there is no hurry – your arrival will be decided by him – and in the mean time you have to pass your time. And while in a journey we always enjoy. At least the journey is enjoyed – we do not know what will happen when we arrive – but relax and enjoy the journey because we are not driving the bus or train, we do not have to bother about the route, we do not have to bother about whether we are in the right direction or not. We know that we will arrive and this makes us relax. Remember that this journey is an unending journey so there is rejoicing and celebrating all our lives. There is freedom all our lives – no matter where we are and what we do.

In the process of being drifted, understand that God is drifting you, this drifting is your journey and during the process – celebrate and enjoy – whatever you are doing, wherever you are – just enjoy – know that what you are doing does not matter and wherever you are does not matter.

Do whatever you are doing, but change a little in the way you think. You have to keep in mind one line “NOT ME, BUT THOU ART”.

You do whatever you do, but know that it is not for you that you are doing this but for the other.

  • If you are getting married – You marry for not your happiness, but for the happiness for your spouse.
  • If you are earning money – you are not earning money for yourself or for your happiness but for your family and others
  • If you buying a house – you are buying it for the happiness for your family for the safety and security of your family
  • If you are working – you are working for the betterment of your family – to give them a good life
  • While taking decisions, while acting on your thoughts – know that all your actions will be for the other and not for yourself
  • If you are struggling – know that you are struggling for others and not yourself

It will be as if, you are slowly removing yourself from the picture, leaving behind the conflict. It is as if you are making the wheel of the world move freely by not being a block and getting crushed in between. It is as if you are making the life of others easier by not being a block on their way. It is nothing but just a change in the thought process. In this case, you put yourself last and others ahead of you. This will help to slowly do away with the “I”. The “I” will slowly vanish and you will be left with only “you”. And when the “I” vanishes, the “you” also vanishes leaving you enlightened – you become a Buddha.

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Greater the WILL – Greater the Freedom

Please Refer my post “Take Life as an Experiment”
If we know that we are free, then why are we not free, why are we scared, why are we miserable? If all actions are experiments then why are we not experimenting with something out of the world and living a miserable life today?
Why are we not aiming to reach the starts?

Why are we living a low life today?
What has happened to our utter freedom?
If the results are not in our control or if the results do not exist at all, then we should be free, there should be no misery at all,but why then we are so full of misery?
Where is our freedom to be free, though theoretically we should be utterly free?
The absence of results and presence of only action should give us the freedom to reach for the starts, it gives us freedom to be anything we want, but where is our utter freedom?
Why are we not free today to do anything we want?
Why are we not full of bliss and glory?
Why do we choose to be a beggar and not a millionaire?
Why cant we dream big and change our thoughts and dreams into reality?
Why can we not be the best in the world in any thing we do?
Why do not we aim to be be the best of the best?
As I told you, all actions are experiments, why do not we experiment with something worthwhile?
What has happened to us? Theoretically we are free – we are supposed to be free – but why are we not? This is the question. If it is theoretically possible, then practically it must be possible.So what stops it?

This is because we are only confined to our small minds. We make others goals as our goals. Our goals are limited to the goals of others. We cant think beyond. Our mind is very small and this world or rather this universe if open – infinite and unending. This is because we are result oriented and our results are what others are doing today. This is because we fear failure, which may happen tomorrow and fail to understand that tomorrow does not exist. The presence to tomorrow gives rise to the mind or the mind gives rise to results and tomorrow. This is because we make someone else’s goal into our tomorrow. This is because our mind tells us that we are small and cannot be big.We dream big, but we stop thinking that we will not be able to. This is because we think that we are helpless. This is because we think we can never be the best of the best.
Summarily – we are stopped by our mind – this mind is the barrier. We stop because we think we will not be able to move forward – WE STOP BECAUSE WE THINK THAT WE WILL STOP.
What can lead us through – IT IS THE “WILL”. One has to understand that the will is not the mind – the mind thinks, but the will makes us act – the mind gives the idea – and it is because of the will that we realize the Idea.
The mind gives you the dream, it gives you desires and at the same time it stops you from realizing them. It is through shear will power that one can overcome anything in this universe.
One has to understand that the will and the mind are opposites – the mind stops and the will overcomes, the will takes us through – greater the barrier (mind) – stronger the will – the will is divine- it is the divine that gets converted into will and it can grow to that extent that it can make you completely free – the will can make you infinite.

Your mind is the Society

If you do something new, the society may not accept. Each and every person will have their own comments – good, bad, right, wrong etc. Most of them will stop you from doing it. You all must have had this experience. Even if they do not stop you physically, they will have their own comments. They will discuss within themselves about your new endeavor – whatever it is. Some people will say that you are right and some people will say that you are wrong. If these people in the society are made to sit together and have a group discussion on your new endeavor, they will continue to argue for years. But have you ever thought, why are these people always discussing – because they want to know the outcome of your new endeavor. But one thing is clear that they cannot stop you physically from doing what you want to do and they cannot ever come to a conclusion. It is impossible. No one is able to know the future. That is why I say that the discussion will continue for years and one day they will forget or they will give up being tired of discussing.

Imagine that one day the society vanishes, no one is there. You are alone with your new plan. The moment you “think” of working on your plan, you mind starts speaking. It will talk about right and wrong, good and bad etc etc. There will start a discussion in your mind. A group discussion – consisting of various voices. Some voices will say good, some will say bad, some will say right, and some will say wrong.

If you watch is closely, it is the same group discussion that would have happened between the people in the society. The comments or objections that will come in your mind while you are alone, will be the same comments raised by the people in the society.

The comments or objections are always the same, whether it is in your mind, or the society. You mind also raises the same objections. This is because, whatever we have learned, it is from the society. The good, the bad, the right and the wrong has been decided by the society. So whatever the mind knows is nothing but what the society knows. It is all the crowd knows. In short, your mind is the society. Your mind is crowd.

Your mind consists of all the people living in the society. That is why a group discussion is possible in your mind. That is why there are various opinions. If there was only “one”, then the questions of “yes” and “No” would not be there. A discussion would not be possible. A discussion will be possible only when there are more than one. Difference of opinion is possible only when there are more than one inside. All these people, since they are in your mind, that the form of “I”, in your mind.

You think that it is you saying once – yes- and once – no. But in reality there are many people giving their own free opinion to you in your mind.

IT IS NEVER YOU. NO THOUGHT CAN BE YOURS.

Whenever you mind objects or raises questions, know that it is not you, it is the society objecting or raising questions. And similarly the discussion in your mind is also because it wants to know the outcome, it wants to see the result. You must have noticed, that you also always want to know “what will happen?”,whenever you want to do something new.

The discussion in your mind, will also fade and eventually stop once you don’t give a damn to it. This is the way. You can do away with the society, by only not listening to what your mind says.

You cannot erase the society but you can always go beyond your mind. Going beyond the mind is going beyond the society. You can always know the millions of voices inside, and say to yourself “I will no longer listen to you” and go ahead in life.

But the final question is of this one “I” who says “I will no longer listen to you”. Even if you do away with all the “I”s made up of the society, this one “I” remains. Doing away with this final “I” is the final step towards enlightenment.

Why We Hate? – The Exercise

This is a continuation of my post – “Why we hate?”. As I have always said, in order to like or love, you have to first eliminate hate. You cannot forcibly eliminate hate or forcibly love. Love is always there, but it is clouded by hate. You have to remove hate by understanding. Once hate has been removed by understanding, love will automatically happen. So our effort should not be to love, but to remove hate.

I have written about an exercise in my post – “why we hate?”. I am doing the exercise myself, to make you understand clearly what I meant in my previous post.

I have made three columns – The first column contains all the “I”s. It contains what makes us who we are, in the second column I have written the person or the situation that make us who we are and in the third column I have written when we start hating the person responsible for making who we are.

What makes you “YOU” Person/Things concerned that makes You “YOU” When we think that we are in trouble and hate the person concerned
I am a good person Society The society has given you a label of a good person. If one or more person in the society calls you bad or not so good, you start hating that person and love those who call us good
I am 30 years old Society Any one who calls you older or younger that what you are, you start hating that person
I am a son/Daughter Father/Mother If by any change, my parents disown me, we become depressed
I am a father/Mother Son/Daughter When your son or daughter leaves you, you become sad
I am a husband/wife Husband/wife When we go through a divorce, we suffer and ultimately start hating the spouse of causing you so much trouble
I have a good looking husband/wife Society Someone says your spouse in ugly, you hate that person
I am good looking Society Someone calls you ugly – you hate that person
I have a healthy body Myself/society Someone comments that you are looking sick and down, you hate that person
I am a friend My Friends when your friends leaves you (goes to another city) or when he is no longer a friend, when he no longer listens to you, hatred slowly develops
I am an Employee in a Reputed Company Company when the company asks you to leave, you hate it.
I am the owner of a car My Car When you car is no longer your car or is stolen or has been damaged or has broken down, you are sad and eventually think about selling your car – you start hating your car or the person who lead to that situation
I am the owner of a house My House When you have to sell your house for some reason or the other you feel sad
I have money in my account The money when you loose money, you are worried and sad
I am famous in my fiend circle My Friend circle when you lose importance in your friend circle, you are sad
I am educated My school/College when someone calls you that you are behaving like an uneducated person, you hate that person
I am a student My school/College When, due to some reason or the other, you are asked to leave you school, you hate you school or college
I am a teacher My students When one or more students leave you, you are sad
I am someone’s adviser The person(s) I advise When the person who seeks advise from you no longer does so, you are initially sad, and then start to hate that person
My Goals Person/Things concerned that will make us achieve our goals. When we think that we are in trouble and start hating the other
I want to be rich Money (Through work or Business) When you lose you job or your business suffers or when you lose money you are sad and hate the person who is responsible for this loss
I want a promotion My Manager You hate you manager for promoting some other employee instead of you
I want to start a business Money, Idea, Co-founders, Customers Someone does not invest in your company, someone disagrees to lend you money, your team disintegrates and all of then join another person, or you business has started and then somehow your products don’t see, your prospective customers do not buy you product – you start hating the person responsible for not allowing you to start a business
I want to be famous & renowned Society The society does not consider you famous. You hate to live in the same society and change your city or may be country (some people do change countries)
I want to be a writer My Idea, Publisher, Readers You do not have a proper Idea – you hate yourself, you find someone already has the same idea and has already published – you hate yourself, your publisher does not agree to publish your book -you hate the publisher, the readers do not consider you a good writer – you start cursing all of them you has disagreed
I want a bigger car Money Somehow you are not able to have that money required to buy your favorite car – you hate the person or the situation responsible
I want a bigger house Money Somehow you are not able to have that money required to buy your favorite car – you hate the person or the situation responsible
I want another kid spouse Your wife does not agree for another baby, you hate you wife and may be you will think about divorce
I want to look good Society Someone says that you cannot be that good looking – you hate all the people who have said that you cannot be that beautiful
I want a good looking spouse Spouse You will not marry till the time you find the person of your choice – any by any chance if he or she is not upto the mark, you will hate her
I want a rich spouse Spouse Your spouse was rich when you married, but due to some reason or the other, he has lost all the money – you hate him or her an eventually think about divorce
Since I am good, I want all my colleagues to like me Colleagues You will hate the colleague who says that you are not good
I want the whole world to love me, whoever I meet the whole world This is not possible – you will hate the whole world and eventually hate yourself for not being that good so that everyone loves you
I want a peaceful life situations around Life keeps changing all the time – in case there is a crisis – you will hate yourself and you will be suicidal
Every 3 months I want a vacation Money, Time, Manager There are possibilities that you may not have money, your manager did not approve you leave application, may be your have other more important work and you had to skip your vacation – you will start hating every person or situation that did not allow you to have the vacation
I want to tour the world Money There are possibilities that you may not have money, your manager did not approve you leave application, may be your have other more important work and you had to skip your vacation – you will start hating every person or situation that did not allow you to have the vacation

The whole of the first column is imaginary and it is called your ego. These are all desires and they help you to be who you are. Otherwise who will you be? But all these things are cause of your trouble. Whole life, in order to realize these identities, we chase one thing or the other. If these are imaginary, than what is real? The place where you are reading this post is real. This moment – here and now is real. Everything else is just a dream. You you watch yourself – your actions and your thoughts very carefully, you will see that every single word uttered or every effort made is towards realizing the “I”s in the first column.

We hate when someone does not help us realize our first column. All our hatred arises from our desire to keep the “I”s alive. Anyone against this first column of ours, he is our greatest enemy.

The moment you know these identities of yours, these “I”s, you will know why you hate. The moment hate comes, if you are aware, you will be relate between your hate and your imaginary Identity, your “I”.

We search for peace of mind. We search for happiness. But how can we be happy and satisfied when we have much to do. Each “I” interferes with the other. And after all, trying to have peace of mind is also an attempt to realize one of the “I”s.

For someone like Gautama, the Buddha, the first column is Blank. This leads to the peak of “peace of mind” that a human being can attain. It leads to enlightenment. It does not happen by making – “peace of mind” a goal, else it would be one of the contents of your first column, but by doing away with the goal.

Having “peace of mind” as a goal is an interesting topic for discussion. We will discuss about it in another post.

We cannot do away with the first column, it does not happen so drastically But if we, GIVE A PAUSE, between our actions, if we watch ourselves, if we develop awareness, we will have a choice. You will know the driving driving force behind every action of yours. The driving force has enormous momentum, the moment you pause, the momentum is lost and you can then change you action from what your mind is saying and what is requirement of the moment.  Then these “I”s do exist for sometime, but they do not have any power on you . Yo being to change.

In Search of the “My”

This is a continuation of my post “Are you really the person in the mirror?” 

I was puzzled yesterday when I realized that the body was not mine. It functions automatically without my interference. I realized that it is just like an intelligent Instrument given to “me” by existence by Creation, because the functioning of the body is a part of creation or existence. Creation created it as was gifted to me when I was born and I will carry it with me till my death. After that it will be returned to existence – Since I am a Hindu, the body will be cremated and all will be converted to ashes and will go into the earth. It will return to the source. It was given to “me” and then after some time, it will be taken back. It has to return to the source. This proves that the body which I call mine is NOT MINE. But I foolishly keep calling it “MY BODY”. It is never good to call, something that belongs to the other, as “MINE”. The body is a gift on returnable basis. It belongs to someone else and it will be taken back. You do not know when it will be taken back. 

The Next question is who is body given to? To whom is the body given to on a returnable basis? Who will have the body for may be 70-80 years? Who mistakenly calls the body is “His” or “hers”. 

A baby in the womb starts growing from a cell. Initially it is just a cell. It keeps growing and growing on it own. It takes shape. Hands, feet, body, heart, brain, veins, bones form on its own, inside the womb. What is making it, what is giving it a shape? What intelligence is supervising it when the baby in the womb is under development – all these things are beyond the control of Humans and they still happen. 

The baby in the womb is doing nothing for the development of his body and other parts. I am sure we all understand this. Then who is doing it? The baby is not, the mother is not,the father is not. But the mother calls the baby as “My Baby”. She did not create the child, she did not create the body of the child, she did not take part is the development of the body of the child while it was in the womb. She only provided the womb. The womb was also not created by the mother. No one in the world can create a womb. The womb definitely does not belong to the mother. 

So, the baby did not create his or her own body while he was in the womb, it did not give the body a particular shape, did not create the heart, the brain, the lungs, the liver, the veins – The baby does not help the body grow with time after he is she is born, does not make the heart beat or the blood flow – but the baby, when he or she grows up, owns the body. He or she calls the body as his or her. 

This is a mistake. Why do you think we are making a mistake? Why do we call it mine? This mistake has to be very clearly understood. This will clear all our hurdles and make us free of sorrow and suffering. 

When A child is born, it is pure. It is just like a flower. It is like a fresh leaf, bright green. It is just like dew drops on the leaf early in the morning. They are very close to God. 

A one month born child is also capable to look around. He is able to move his hands and legs. He cries and makes some noise.He does not have any knowledge, he does not know how to act, what to say, whether to keep quite or not. He does not have any objective like we have. His actions are pure. So a child does not mentally suffer like we do. A child does not have problems like we have. He is pure consciousness. 

What can be so pure? What is there is a flower that is not in a grown up human being? It is consciousness.Consciousness is God. It is the Purest. 

Consciousness is pure space. It is a “no-thing”. Consciousness does not have a sense of “I” or “My”. Therefore the child, is Pure consciousness. Consciousness is the space where the supreme Intelligence works. Consciousness is the space where the supreme Intelligence or Creation or Existence Manifests. Whatever happens, all forms, they all happen in the consciousness. 

Consciousness is polluted when the mind starts forming. It is the only place where information that is taken in through the senses, gather and form our memory. The mind becomes a part of Consciousness, but we are only aware of the mind and not consciousness. 

The child, when he is born is a “no-thing”. It is a part of the whole. It is just like a flower. It does not know that he or she has a body. The body is Just there like anything else – he or she is pure consciousness. 

Since the child is pure consciousness and pure consciousness is a “no-thing”, in order to be something, the child develops an “I”. The child starts to develop various Identities with time. This happens automatically as the consciousness gets filled up with information form outside, through the senses. 

Please read my post – “Ego – The Greatest Obstacle to Creativity and Innovation” you will understand it completely.  

These Identities that from in the consciousness of the child, are all imaginary. The knowledge that he has gained, forms his mind. The moment the mind forms, the person is split. He is split between the mind and the consciousness. The consciousness is manifesting, it is continuously creating, it has its own will, which we call the will of God – but the knowledge, the logic the mind of the person thinks otherwise. The mind generally goes against the will of God or the supreme intelligence, which leads to enormous amount of mental tension.  

All these Identities form the mind of the person. The Identities gives the person a sense of “I”, but it is all imagination. And all our lives, we keep strengthening our “I”s. All our actions are directed towards strengthening our “I”s. We do not allow the consciousness to work, because it is all filled up with knowledge, and we try to solve all our problems with logic and knowledge and fail to understand that there is also a world that is beyond logic.  

Because the “I” forms, in order to strengthen that “I”, we try to possess everything and label it as “My”. The same logic is applicable to understand why in spite of several proofs, that the body is not in our control, we still call it “our” body, otherwise, what will we be? So, first thing that we own in this world is our “Body” and this owning is nothing more than an Imagination in order to strengthen the “I”. 

In reality there is no “I”. It is of the Ego. The ego is an Imaginary identity created with knowledge, otherwise who will we be? We are pure consciousness. We are pure space.  

This “I” creates all the problems. This “I” makes our life hell. It splits us into two. We are never at peace. The moment you do away with this “I”, you become pure consciousness, your life becomes utterly creative, you align yourself with the supreme intelligence or creation or Existence.  

The  only goal of humanity should be do away with the Imaginary “I” and create space for creation or existence to act through you.

Why we Hate?

I was thinking about wiring about love. But you will not understand love, if you do not understand hate. You will be able to love only if you understand why you hate. 

To understand this you will first have to do a little exercise. This exercise will help you know yourself. This exercise is very important. 

Take a piece of paper and write down point wise about yourself. 

Your Relations – like, you are someone’s son or a daughter, you are a friend, you are someone’s boyfriend or girlfriend, someones fiance, someone’s student, someone’s teacher,  write down all that. 

Your Dreams and Goals – You have had dreams since the time you were a kid. Even today you are planning for the future. You wanted a Good Job, You wanted a Good House, You wanted Good Education, you wanted a good spouse, you wanted a good looking spouse, if you are a girl, you have always dreamed of having a rich spouse. Also write about your future goals – what you would like to see yourself in 5 years from  now (This seems like an HR Interview Question) – Write your goals of the past and that of the future. 

Write down Presently who you are, what you do, where you work, what is your education, who you are with (husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, fiance etc). 

Write down what makes you, “YOU”. 

All the above are your identities. All these identities make you “YOU”. Without these you will no longer be “YOU”. See, you have not one but many identities. There are so many “YOUs”. You are split between so many identities. 

Throughout our lives, we keep protecting these identities. All our driving forces are only to protect these Identities and strengthen them. If you watch very carefully you will know. All your anger, all you pain, all your distress is because you are not able to live up to these identities. Every movement and every word uttered by us is only to protect and strengthen these identities and NOTHING ELSE. If you watch yourself very closely, you will know that I am right. 

If you now make a list of all your the people you know or have known since childhood, you will be able to connect each of these people with every identity of yours. The people who help to to be one of your identities, are your friends and they are the people you like. And the people who have gone against these identities, have not made us be who we think we our, not made us realize one of our identities, have become our enemies, these are the people who we do not like. 

When your spouse tells you that he or she loves you and will stay with you forever. Your Identity as a husband or wife gets strengthened and you like him or her. If your spouse comes and says, you are a pathetic person and would like to go for  a divorce, Your identity as a husband or a wife gets threatened and you do not like her or him any more. Your identity as a “good Person” also gets threatened, because your spouse calls you “Pathetic” and you do not like him or her any more. 

So we come to this conclusion that we hate everyone else and love only our identities. The whole world is our enemy, except our identities. 

We hate when these identities get threatened by any situation or person. And we start hating that person. Be very careful and watch your thoughts when you develop some hatred for anyone. I can bet that this person or the situation must be threatening one or many of your identities.  We love when someone strengthens our identities. Even when we love, we are loving not the person, but our own developed and imaginary identities.  

Having these Identities gives rise to expectation. Since you cannot strengthen you identities, because most of them are absurd and Imaginary, we expect that the other will be able to. We do not understand that if you have not been able to do it, other being very much like you, we all are almost the same, how can he or she do it. 

People marry thinking that the other will fulfill their dreams and expectations, and make them be  their identities. But when this does not happen, it gives rise to enormous amount of tension between the partners. Each start hating the other and eventually it marriage ends up in divorce. But if these people have not realized what went wrong, they will repeat the same mistake again. One has to go to the core and uproot the error.

Now you know why you hate a person. You know what gives rise to hatred. You know why we love. Do we even understand the meaning of love? NO. I am afraid, but we do not.  

You would start loving when you have stopped loving thousands of Identities that you have developed till date and everyday going on developing.  

You do not have to love. Love will automatically happen when all these identities are no longer there. When you have separated yourself from your million identities.

One Has to “STOP”

For knowing our thoughts, enormous amount of awareness is required, the driving force behind each action of ours has to be known, driving force behind each word we utter has to be known..one has to “stop” and let the thoughts “pass”. This “stopping” is very important. We keep keep moving simultaneous with the thoughts, we are parallel to the thoughts, that is why we do not know. The moment we stop, we can see them pass, hear them, see them and then do away with them. This stopping has to be learnt.

When You Would Stop Hurting The Other

We generally do something or do not do something depending on what trigger we receive from inside. Some kind of bad feelings tell us that we should not do and good feelings tell us to do that particular activity. I am not talking about what the mind is telling us, or what the inner talk is, I am taking only of the feeling.

The mind orders and the heart suffers. Always remember this statement. All feelings are connected with the heart. The mind is simply a computer program. 

Normally we tend to hurt others – this is normal human nature. This is bad. But this does not change overnight. 

If you create space, or have access to the supreme intelligence, you will one day stop hurting others.

We would stop hurting the other the day we feel tremendously hurt, may be a million time more, after hurting the other to the slightest extent, you know you are in the right path. Generally we feel happy after hurting the other or yelling at the other, but the day the reverse would happen, which happens very rarely, we should know that spaces have started growing inside and we are connecting with the supreme intelligence.

You may feel hurt or you may feel fear or remorse or sad or anything after even talking loudly with the other. There will be again an object forming inside, an uneasiness, a block will be felt. This feeling of sadness or fear, will be there to give you a signal or to intimate you not to do that again in future. And the best part is you will never do it again, just to maintain your sanity, peace of mind. This action of hurting the other will put you in so much distress, you would say, “even of the other hurts me I will not hurt the other”. When this happens know that you are in the right path.

This will be there because, already the spaces have expanded inside. A normal, very small intensity feeling of resistance will trigger various other feelings of resistance, that were there  from the past. It will be just the filling up of spaces by other lingering emotions inside the body. This will be a signal that enormous amount of spaces have been created inside.

These are all signs, that shows that you are growing, you have started accessing the supreme intelligence. Remember, when spaces have started forming, you will automatically know what to do and what not to do. It is the existence speaking. It is the supreme Intelligence. You will just know. You will be guided.

My Quote – Our Need for Approval

It is impossible for us to stand out..the moment we stand out we tend to find people who have stood out like us…after standing out from one group… we tend to form groups again…the moment we become a part of a group..we fall back to the same level…then we have formed our own society again, after standing out from one society..we will make rules and feel safe adhering to them….

This is because we have forgot to approval ourselves. We have forgot to love ourselves and accept ourselves as we are. We have doubts even if we have stood first among many. This shows how shaky we are. Even when we are No 1 we need approval. We need a crowd. We need a society.

My Quote – Society and Us

“To succeed you need the society, to fail you need the society

You are carrying the society in your head. The questions that stop you from moving forward are the same questions that will be raised by the society when you move forward. You are the society. The moment you leave your mind aside, you leave the society back. You liberate yourself”