Conflict Is Inevitable

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(The Picture above shows Lord Krishna Blowing the Conch as a gesture accepting conflict which is inevitable. It was when the their opponent blew the conch indicating the start of the battle, the Lord also blew his conch showing that he also accepts the challenge of the war)

We all are waiting for the day when all our problems will vanish forever and we will live happily ever after. We all are waiting for the day when we will relax and enjoy our life. We all are waiting for this day. All our work, our tensions and our hurry are because this day is not coming soon enough. We keep questioning why this day does not come. We tend to put an end to our problems as soon as possible and relax and enjoy. We are not happy till all our problems are over. We want to earn money quickly, we want have a car, buy a house, get married, have children and reach the day when there will be no problems.

Objective of an ignorant man is to be secure so that he can relax, enjoy and have fun. The goal of an ignorant man is happiness. The Goal of an ignorant man is to have a life without problems and conflict.

The man of knowledge knows that conflict is inevitable. Conflict gives rise to problems and tensions. A man of knowledge knows that life without problems and conflict is asking for the impossible. The day when all our problems will vanish will never come. It is for sure.

Your presence if this world is a conflict for all other people in this world. Not only for the people but for entire existence you are a conflict.

  • The moment you were born your parents were happy but for you they struggle. Their entire struggle is for you. Just think about it. Your mother and father will worry about you even when you have grown up. You are making them worry, you are making them struggle.
  • When you go to school your teacher has to struggle to teach you. Had you not been there at all, she would have been correcting one number less answer sheets. You have increased their work.
  • Because you are in school, there is more competition among students. You have increased the competition.
  • If you stand first in class, then you have already taken the place of the guy who was standing first in class. You made him struggle.
  • When in any competition, you being a participant increase the competition. Make all other competitors struggle more. You stand on their way, knowingly or unknowingly.
  • When in college, you take up the seat of another guy and make him struggle.
  • While appearing for a job interview, you take away someone else’s job. You make the other person struggle.
  • You eat so you kill animals or plants for your food. You make them struggle.
  • You breathe and reduce the oxygen in the atmosphere
  • You walk on the road, you kill so many insects
  • You drive, create pollution and so many people fall sick and get killed.
  • You have to maintain your body, you are creating s struggle for yourself as well.
  • When you get married, you are creating a struggle for your spouse; he or she has to care for you and be a wife or a husband and carry out the responsibility. You create struggle for your spouse as well. Both of you are blocking the flow of life for each other.

There is conflict even if you do not want it to be there. There is conflict and struggle from the time you were born. You were born into conflict. It cannot be avoided. In one way or the other, you want or you don’t, you are standing on the way of someone else. As long as you are on this earth, you are standing as a block on someone else’s way.  And when you stand on the path of someone or something, it is bound to create conflict. They are bound to revolt and create problems for you. At every moment they will attempt to throw you out of their path. They feel that if they throw you out, their life will be smooth, but they do not know that it is not possible because they being a part of this universe are also standing on the way of someone or something and are creating problems and conflicts for them. They are also bound to create conflict. Each and every person, no matter whoever he is – is creating conflict with existence. This is the truth. This needs to be accepted.

Now since you are standing on their way, they are creating problems for you. They want to throw you out. Not only other humans but entire existence wants you to vanish forever. You are a block in the flow of life. You are like a wall standing on the way of life. This is bound to happen. The whole existence will be creating problems for you as long as you are a part of this universe because you are creating problems and blocks for existence.

But we try to find peace in this world. We try to find happiness. We want to relax. We want enjoyment. We all are waiting for the day when all our problems will vanish forever and we can do whatever we want. We are so much mistaken. The entire struggle for happiness is not possible as long as you form a part of existence. We all are misdirected. We can only find complete peace when we are not in this universe. We can find peace the day we are enlightened. Not before that. So the entire struggle for happiness and relaxation is futile. One can never find happiness till the time he is enlightened, because conflict is an inevitable part of existence. Everyone and everything are struggling for peace. Yes – struggle has to be there, but it has to be in the right direction. The struggle has to be for the achievement of Nirvana and not happiness and pleasure. Happiness and pleasure is not possible.

There are two ways out of this conflict. The two ways are diametrically opposite but they lead to the same goal.

  • You become a “nobody”. You stand on the way of none. You facilitate the work of others and not form a block on their way. You do not form a block in the flow of existence. You leave everything and become a recluse. You form a burden on no one. By the time you are reading this, you are already entangled in this world. You are as if tied by many ropes with people and things and now it will require huge effort and a Gigantic Will power to break all the ropes and leave the world and be a recluse. In the process of breaking the connections, you will create various conflicts with all the people who are connected with you. You have a family; you have a wife, children, and parents. There is loads of responsibility on your shoulders. Being a recluse and to reach a state where there is no conflict will create loads of conflict and struggle. So we see that conflict cannot be ruled out. Even in the process of being a recluse, conflict is bound to be there. There is no escape. Even in this method, there will be conflict till the time you reach nirvana or complete enlightenment. Also remember that enlightenment is bound to happen. Today or tomorrow it will happen.

 

  • The second method is ACCPETING THE CONFLICT.  Since you know that conflict is inevitable even if you want to be a recluse and leave the world, the only way is to be a part of the conflict. Accept the conflict, accept the trouble and struggle, accept that there is misery, and accept that there is no happiness or relaxation. Accept that there is no enjoyment and fun. Accept that there is no end to problems till the time you attain enlightenment. Understand that even if you die, you will again be born and be a part of this ever existing conflict. Accept that there is no escape.

The trouble is there because we do not accept the fact that conflict is inevitable. It is bound to be there, whether you are a recluse or whether you take part in the activities of the world.

This is the message of the Bhagawad Gita. This is want Lord Krishna says. Arjuna was afraid of the Battle. He was looking for peace and did not want to kill is relatives. He wanted to escape and become a recluse. But the Lord told him, that even if you escape, the conflict is bound to be there, so is better that you accept this fact and take part in this conflict. You take part is this world. Be a part of this world and take part in the battle.

If you see the picture above you will see that the Lord is blowing the conch. This blowing of the conch is a gesture of acceptance. The other side blew the conch first and in reply, the lord also blew the conch accepting the challenge. The lord convinced Arjuna that conflict is inevitable – and so he should take part in the war and do his duty.

So you accept the challenge and take active part in the activities of this world. The following points are some points for understanding that will help you walk the path accepting the conflict which is inevitable.

  • Understand that relaxation will never happen. You will not be able to relax as long as you are a block to others which you invariably are. Never think to one day relax. Think of being on your toes all the time.
  • You think that you would relax when all your problems are gone forever. Your problems will never go forever till the time you are a conflict and a block on the way of others. Never think that your problems will go and never try to put all your problems to an end at once so that you can relax and be happy. This is asking for the impossible.
  • Live your life as if there is no relaxation and happiness – just work and then relaxation happens on its own. But if you are not hankering for relaxation and are always working, you will slowly notice a subtle relaxation slowly growing from within. Even amidst tremendous activity, you will be able to find subtle relaxation from within. This relaxation is should be the goal and this will happen.
  • Understand that relaxation cannot happen easily. Most of us cannot relax. To work is easy for us than relaxation. You must have noticed that we cannot even sit quietly for a little time. We are always in motion. Working is easier, so we should start with work, which is easy and end in relaxation. We should start with what is easy.
  • Understand that we want happiness, we want relaxation and in the pursuit of happiness, enjoyment and relaxation, we get nothing but only tension. This is because happiness and enjoyment are not possible as long as we are a part of the conflict and we are invariably a part of the never ending conflict.
  • Have you noticed that we working so hard? What for?  – Because we want to relax and be happy one day. We all are waiting for the day when all our problems will be gone forever. We are in a hurry because we want that day to come fast enough. And that day never comes; this gives us a lot of tension.
  • So Live as if there is no happiness, enjoyment and relaxation. One day amidst tremendous activity, tension and frustration, relaxation and joy will grow from within. This will be our real achievement.
  • We all have one goal that is to be happy one day. To have enough money one day and no problems. This is the greatest folly. Our only goal should be to accept the struggle and conflict. We wait for the day, when there will be no problems and worries. This waiting is the cause of all our misfortune. This is not the truth. Happiness is not our goal. It will never happen. This waiting strains us. All our hurry and work is to reach the day as quickly as possible. But his is not possible.
  • Can you force yourself to sleep? NO. Similarly you cannot force yourself to be happy or relax forever. Happiness and relaxation can only happen from within when you immerse yourself in tremendous activity accepting the challenge and facing the conflict.
  • Understand that no relaxation and no happiness is the normal state. When you are unhappy or you are not able to relax, know that this is the right thing. Know that you are in the right path.
  • The day we wait for, the day of happiness and relaxation and enjoyment comes and goes away in no time. It is again the same thing. It is again the same rush. All days of happiness, if it is not from within will pass away even before you know. So do not wait for them.
  • From Monday onwards, we wait for the weekend so that we can relax, but the weekend passes in a blink of an eye, and even before we know it has arrived, it is already passed. So do not wait for the day of happiness, it will pass.
  • We all are waiting for results of our actions. We wait because we are waiting for happiness. This is the folly. Because this day will never come. Even if it comes, it will go away in no time. We all are always waiting for something to happen; some miracle to happen that will make us happy. This waiting strains us. Do not wait for results of your actions.
  • If you are not waiting for results, if you are not waiting for happiness, enjoyment and relaxation, then the results, whether positive or negative will not matter. So delete the word relaxation from your dictionary and work all day and night and never bother about the results.
  • When you do not bother for the results it means that you are not waiting for happiness. This way you become a real karma yogi. You hanker for results because you want to be happy. If your goal is not to be happy, you are not bothered about results. If for you – Unhappiness is OK, then you are not bothered about results.
  • Understand that for a karma yogi, the actions and results do not clash; they are on two different levels. On one level a karma yogi acts and in another level things keep happening. They do not mutually interfere.
  • When you are unhappy tell yourself that this is the normal state and when you have no time to relax and enjoy, tell yourself that you do not want to relax.
  • Start working and give yourself such a momentum and never stop till the two levels of action and results become separate and eventually the lower layer vanish.
  • Pick up a goal and do not stop. Do not care about happiness, relaxation. Do not think that the actions that you are doing will do you any good. Do not think that the results of your actions will bring you happiness.
  • Let all other things, including all your problems be in one plane and you actions in another plane interfered by none.
  • When in a problem, do not wait for the day when you will relax when your problem is done away with. But work to solve the problem.
  • Whenever you think about happiness and enjoyment, tell yourself that you are not looking for happiness, enjoyment and relaxation. Know that these things are not possible.
  • Your work momentum should be such that it can crush the block of your emotions. So start working and develop a momentum that can crush everything that comes on the way.
  • Understand that a momentum of work has to be developed and one has to rise to a level of action, where nothing interferes. Such a person, who stays in the level of pure action, is devoid of problems.

The Idea is to accept the fact that there is struggle, there is conflict and there is no relaxation, enjoyment and happiness. And you being a part of this world will have to take part in the struggle. This way a subtle peace and relaxation will grow from within. This peace that grows from within will be permanent and will never go no matter what you do. This way you will become a perfect Karma Yogi.

 

 

 

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Take Life as an Experiment

We all are conducting experiments all our lives. Whatever we do is an experiment, but we are not aware of it. Let us see how.

We all know that, tomorrow is unknown – Rather i should say tomorrow does not exist – tomorrow is just speculation of the mind – OR THE KNOWLEDGE THAT TOMORROW EXISTS BRINGS THE MIND IN OR THE existance of the MIND MAKES TOMORROW. If tomorrow is just speculation then the results of all the actions that we do today are just speculations – they are not real – they are imaginary – they are based on what we have seen for others – if someone starts a business, we have seen that he has earned a lot of money and has become rich. We than start a business and also speculate that we will also earn a lot of money and fame. So the results of others become the result of ours. But in reality we do not know, but we keep speculating – all day and night we keep speculating. Or rather I should say, the Mind keeps speculating for speculation is its job, otherwise it is not needed – without the mind there is no tomorrow.

If tomorrow is not there, there results of the actions are not there – then the next moment is also a speculation -The results are also speculation – then at this moment, the action and the results merge into ONE AND THE SAME – or the results are the actions or actions are the results. You cannot have both. You have to decide – either you chose action or you chose results. There can be either doing or happening. There cannot be both together. At this moment, only one is possible.
For persons, who has decided to meditate, those who have decided to just sit, people with Gigantic Will like those of Gautama the Buddha, it was only happening – Initially it was doing, sitting is also doing, thinking is also doing -but with time it became ONLY HAPPENING. THERE WAS NO DOING AND ONLY HAPPENING. These people with Gigantic will, have decided not to act and let things happen and for them, it was only happening. No doing. These kind of people are very rare, because it requires tremendous will power and tremendous courage. But for others, for those who cannot leave this world, there is only action. There is only doing and no happening. For these people, action and all and no results. Initially results will be in the mind, but with will power and understanding, there remains only action.
For both, initially it is doing, and later it becomes happening. Both the roads lead to the same truth.
We are result oriented – we first speculate the result and then action begins for us. The Idea of the result is from the outside – we see someone doing well in a certain profession, we make that profession into a goal – and make his results our own result and start working; success and failure depends on whether we achieve what he has achieved. WE MAKE HIS TODAY OUR TOMORROW. WHAT WE SEE TODAY, BECOMES OUR TOMORROW – someone sees us do something, he also makes my goal as his..and then many people are chasing the same goal, hundreds are chasing the same dream – then starts competition, who reaches first, who earns more wealth – who has a better position in society – thus in the competition, it becomes either you or me..we become separated – we become divided into “you” and “I”. This leads to the formation of the “I”, the ego. There is always a race to superiority.
So the results do not exist. There is either only action or only happening. We need to work, we need to earn a living, but at the same time we have to live in this world of misery – there is fear, there is failure and all other things.
Since there is nothing which is a result and result is nothing but a speculation – we have utter freedom now. We are frozen because we think from the point of the result. The question comes what will happen if we fail, and this stops us from exploring this world. We do not explore. We do not dare to explore.
You can either unknowingly perform experiments or You can purposely perform experiments, using your will.
My suggestion is whatever you do, you do it as an experiment – will fully. What happens in an experiment? There is a procedure and there are observations. You follow the procedure, and just observe the results – remember JUST OBSERVE. In an experiment, there is no failure or success. There are only observations. So you observe – DO AND OBSERVE – DO AND OBSERVE.
We have to pick up a goal. Otherwise what will we do? PICK UP A GOAL (how ever small and however big) AND WITH THE GOAL IN MIND, CONDUCT AN EXPERIMENT – AND OBSERVE THE RESULT. THAT’S IT. LET THE GOAL BE, BUT WITH THE GOAL IN MIND, YOU ARE CONDUCTING AN EXPERIMENT TO REACH THE GOAL.
All your actions till date have been experiments only – we did the experiments unknowingly – or we did not experiment at all – the fear of failure stopped us from conducting experiments with life – 
 
If you feel today that you are a failure – look at the past as if you had conducted all experiments and all the so called “results” were  just observations – neither failure nor success – and also promise that all your actions will be just experiments – and you will observe the results – just observe!
 
Everyone of us are conducting experiments throughout our lives – day in and day out -but we are unaware that we are conducting experiments – whatever we do are no more than experiments – because there are no results as I have said before. When the results do not exist, whatever we do it is no more than experiments. This has to be remembered.
Everyone is conducting experiments – the person who is happy and successful and the person who is sad and a failure – success but they are not aware of it. They think that they are successful or a failure – they are unaware of the fact that they are just observing the results and the results are either making them happy or sad. They are connecting themselves to the results rather than observing.
The results are different and the happiness and sadness that comes with the result are different. Sadness comes or happiness comes when you fail to observe the result, but you become the result.Then you are not the observer, then you are the observed. You become success or failure  – but you should be only watching or observing the results.